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Love Others, Because
Like It or Not, You are Connected to Them
Let’s face it: most of what
we experience here on earth will be dictated by
our relationship with others. How others around
us behave and interact with us has a tremendous
effect on how we live our lives. This is true
whether for the better or for the worse.
Loving others is a
tremendous challenge is that there is no
universal recipe for loving others. It is not
so simple as to do or say nice things to
others. Sometimes it means being stern or hard
on them. Most of all it means nourishing others
and meeting their needs. It means taking time
to understand, and often it means forgiving or
allowing for their imperfections. Truly loving
another person requires first your Connection to
God, then listening to God as to the best way to
love that person.
Then you have the issue of
how to handle particularly mean and nasty ones.
You will most certainly encounter them and I’m
sure you have already. We break down our
consideration of loving others in these entries
for the six week study by starting with some
basics: simple things you do not do if you love
others. We will then talk specifically about
“enemies” – people who are impossible to get
along with and people who appear to be the devil
incarnate. We then move to how we can use
little things everyday to love those around us.
Next we delve into larger service opportunities
and how we can play a larger role in the lives
of those around us. Finally we will cover great
big things. God used Moses, a simple shepherd
out in the field, for a great big thing, and it
may that we are destined for the same.
But for today, we want to
start with the concept that we are all
connected. We study this in our Connection
entries, but it is an important starting point
for loving others. It is imperative that we see
those around us as connected to us. We cannot
go through life and see others as separate
beings against whom we compete, and we cannot be
alienated from them. This is not to say you
won’t encounter disconnected individuals. In
fact, it is safe to say that most of the people
you encounter won’t really be connected, or if
they are, the linkage is weak and deteriorated
to some degree.
Even in the case of the
disconnected people who come into your life, we
must begin by understanding that there is a
reason they are in our lives. We may not
understand it and we may struggle to appreciate
it, but appreciate it we must. There is a
reason they are there. So the first step is
that even if the Connection is hostile, it is
still a Connection. It may be low energy, and
our work is to bring high energy into those
situations. We must be sure that in these cases
we feel the Connection flow through us towards
them. The moment you feel your ego surge to
answer a challenge or insult, you must be able
to suppress the ego and instead reach into the
Spiritual Network and let it flow through you.
When you look at the hostile one before you,
your response and interaction must be guided by
the Spirit. Two things then happen. First,
their disconnect or low energy then becomes
their isolated response and you are not drawn
into their low energy state. Second, you learn
to appreciate that this person is in your life
for a reason, and you see the hostility
differently. We will talk more about dealing
with difficult people later on, so for now let’s
leave it that you will most certainly encounter
them, but they are just part of the journey
through this life. They might even be here for
a purpose and can strengthen or help us. It
might be that you are there to bring high energy
into their situation. Loving these types
primarily requires we rely more than ever on our
Connection and look for guidance as to how we
can possibly love such a person. Loving that
person begins with a genuine appreciation for
their being part of our lives.
Fortunately there is a much
more pleasant aspect of loving others. There
will be many friends and loved ones that you
will meet on your journey that are truly
blessings - people you want connected to you. I
have been very blessed with a spouse who is
Connected and a joy to be around. If our spouse
is not a Connected person, life can get
difficult quick. And I have one friend that is
closer than perhaps any other. We connect on a
Spiritual level and it is comforting to know
another soul on this earth truly cares for me.
This is not to mean of course we should put our
trust in anything other than our Connection, but
loving others certainly incorporates having very
close friends and people you can count on around
you in your life.
Remember that the world is
an illusion and is actually an energy continuum.
The energy that flows through me flows through
you. Consider that we are not independent of
one another, and if we were, we could not exist
and neither could the others. It is the
entanglement of all of our energy that results
in life. For this fact alone, it is wise that
we learn to love others and appreciate them for
what they are, because they are all part of the
same energy system as we are.
But there is a problem that
does exist in this world and this is where we
fit in. Many people have been cut off from the
flow of energy, or they emit low energy fields
that run counter to our Source. They view
themselves as separate and let their ego dictate
their thoughts and behaviors. They believe they
are defined by their possessions and positions
of power. For these people, their
self-importance is very strong and they are
easily offended. Self-importance is in fact a
huge consumer of energy and is often what
results in people living at low energy. Think
about how much time, effort and energy is
required to feed the ego. If we think we are
important and we go around being offended by
what others say and do, it saps our energy and
brings us to a very low level. For ourselves,
one of the most important elements in achieving
a high energy Connection is to overcome our
sense of self-importance. This is in fact what
separates a true spiritual warrior from the rest
– they have overcome their own self-importance.
For our Connection to others, it is important to
realize that most have a high level of self
importance that blocks your Connection to them.
A large challenge will be how to creatively deal
with people blinded by their own
self-importance. It is a real problem, and
breaking it down is something we won’t even
attempt to do on our own. All we can do is to
be there for God to use us. Many times it
requires a complete breakdown before that person
learns that they aren’t all that important.
So, even though we are
still connected by an energy field, much of it
is low energy. How do we translate this into
higher positive energy? How do we raise the
energy field and improve the flow of Spirit into
the world? We are the conduit, and we
participate in this flow by first Connecting
ourselves and becoming a conduit of this higher
energy. We also have to overcome our own
feelings of self-importance such that our Source
can use us. Once we establish this Connection
through loving God, then put our own ego in
check, it is then time to let it flow into
everything around us. That is the true meaning
of loving others. Some have described love as
nourishing others, particularly their spirit.
When we nourish others we feed them, and it is
high energy - healing soothing energy fields -
that we let flow through us to them. You
obviously will encounter circuits that resist
the flow, and while sad, it has to be accepted.
We are responsible for delivering the high
energy and then it is up to others what to do
with it.
Think for a moment and make
a list of times you were drawn into a low energy
field. Perhaps someone was nasty to you and you
were nasty in return. It will happen because we
are not perfect. These are great learning
opportunities. Reflect on them and think of
what you could have done differently. It may be
good to make a list of these times along with
corrective actions. It will serve as a
checklist and a reminder of the importance of
your own Connection in insuring your response to
low energy situations is a high energy
response. Read Jesus’ responses to the
Pharisees as examples of dealing with low
energy. The proper response is not always
passiveness, for as in the case of Jesus,
sometimes we need to point out the low energy
directly, whether they accept it or not.
Change the way you look at
everyone around you. We are all in this
together. Be thankful for the ones you meet in
life who have strong Connections – they can help
you along life’s journey. Be thankful for the
disconnected nasty ones. They are there for a
reason also. Just be sure to flood those
situations with high energy instead of being
dragged into their low energy field.
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